also, i have very very limited access to the computer and internet time. ideally, the post in question would not have happened if i would have been around to nip in it the bud.
ive been sitting on this post for a few days because of the above circumstances
i have asked, and birthwarrior has agreed to be a moderator.
so if anyone has left because of me, please know that i will be taking a very backseat to this community and birthwarrior will have most control of it. i invite anyone to come back, if they wish.